For a long time, I embraced the supermom myth, the one that says I can be everything to everyone ALL the time. The truth is life is a balancing act for many people, especially for moms. Whether you work in the home or outside of the home, trying to juggle your career, duties as a partner, and the responsibilities to your children can be demanding and overwhelming. The good news is, there is hope. You absolutely can wake up each day looking forward to the day’s challenges with enthusiasm and grace. Here are 8 tips to help you be a supermom in real life.
- Separate your family time and work time. Set proper boundaries to provide adequate attention to each of your roles. No scheduling solution is perfect, but the effort alone will pay big dividends in your stress level and effectiveness as a parent, wife, and career woman. When you’re in work mode, concentrate on work. When you come home for the evening, give your family your undivided attention and leave work at work. You’ll get more done in less time and feel less stressed.
- Make plans with your kids for the weekend. Make playdates with your kids on the weekend, allowing them to choose the activity. This not only lets them know that you want to spend time with them, but it also communicates value to your children and how important to you they are. When you are with your kids, focus only on them, and enjoy your time together.
When I’m traveling, I call my daughter every night without fail (well, excepting strange time zone situations). We talk about her day and I sing to her.– susan, mom/lawyer
- Show your children what you do. Talk to your kids about what you do for a living, why it’s important to you, and why it’s important to them. The more they know about where mom spends her day, the more they’ll be okay when you are handling things at work. If you can, take it one step further by allowing your kids to see you in action at work and learn all about what you do.
- Find hobbies that you all enjoy. If your children are passionate about something that you also enjoy, this gives you an outlet to experience regular quality time with them and rejuvenating recreation at the same time. For us it’s fantasy and sci-fi movies. From The Wizarding World to Star Wars, we all love to have a weekend movie marathon with popcorn and movie theatre candy.
- Get to know your kids’ friends. Be proactive in getting to know who your kids hang out with. You can also get to know their friends’ parents (you may score a new friend yourself). Take an active role in encouraging your children to hang around with positive people that can fuel their growth.
- Take a family vacation at least once a year. Pick a destination that you and your kids can all agree on. Make sure the vacation offers something enjoyable for everyone. Can’t take a trip? Plan for a staycation at home with some unique ideas to make it feel like you’re actually away. Most importantly, leave office work at the office. Give the kids your undivided attention so they know how much you value time spent with them.
- Hire a service for the household work. If you start to feel like your time is spread too thin, hire a service for the household chores. This will give you the time you need to spend with your kids. By hiring someone to do the mundane work, you can do the most important work of all: being available to your children.
By following these eight tips, you can bring sanity to a world that was once filled with constant chaos. You can juggle your work and family life if you make decisions that are consistent with your values, plan your time carefully, and use your resources on the priorities that are most important.